Personal Development

A Humbling Experience

You might have seen that I have not posted for a few days and this is because a few of my posts have generated a degree of negative feedback. Quite honestly I needed a bit of time to suck it up and come to terms with two key facts. First not everyone likes my style or what I write about. Second, yes I made a couple of mistakes and those have got to be owned unto.

I can do nothing about other people. One person said that it sounded like I was drunk when I wrote my piece. Another suggested that I had relied on wiki. Yes it is hurtful, and no I do not rely on wikipedia I do proper research and come to reasoned conclusions but people are entitled to their own opinions just as I am entitled to mine. My opinions in the future will be more closely guarded and I will be less likely to spout them out on Facebook.

Thinking about my actual mistakes is a bit harder because I am very proud of my work. I put a lot into it and spend a lot of time on it. To be shown that I have got it wrong bruises the ego and by the end of the day my ego was very bruised. On that day I was visiting Stone Henge and I sat in the car raging. When I eventually calmed down I began to thing about it I began to think about one of the most useful books I have ever read. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People tells me that I can not control what other people do or say but I can control how I react to it. I am in fact responsible which is to say ‘able to respond’. So I began to calm down and thought about the most effective way to respond to these criticisms and came to the conclusion that it might be better to look at what they say and then change what I am doing to accommodate those criticisms, where they are just and ignore them where they are not just.

To be honest I have not found this easy. I would like to report to you that I am a humble and modest man but that would just be adding lying to my vices. I am egoistical, self important and that makes me fragile. My fragility ruins lovely days out and now I think it is time to try to learn the lesson and become the humble and modest man who learns from his experiences.

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